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Monday, July 26, 2010

How can parents help children stay strong in their faith?


From http://www.conversiondiary.com/2010/07/how-can-parents-help-children-stay.html
One of the tough things about being a convert to a religious belief system is that you don't have personal experience with raising children in that particular faith. I was recently talking to some fellow atheist-to-Catholic moms, and we all agreed that we feel like we're fumbling around in the dark sometimes; it's surprisingly hard to be a Christian parent and have no frame of reference for what a Christian childhood looks like.

Because of this, I've spent a lot of time soaking up wisdom from strong Christian families. For example, when I met a mother of 10 at a baby shower recently and heard that all 10 of her children (most of them grown) are devout Christians, I asked her a bunch of questions about faith and family life over plates of pastel-colored cake. When I overheard a woman at a social event remark that she and all three of her siblings have always had strong, vibrant relationships with Jesus, I struck up a conversation about how their religion played a role in their home growing up.

It's been fascinating. As I've had all these discussions, I've been looking for trends: Are there any universal themes among the families with children who have maintained a strong faith live into adulthood? Any things that stand out as being bigger factors than others?

Let me rush in with the caveats here and say that I realize that raising faith-filled kids isn't about doing this or not doing that. I don't think that I can just ape everything these other Christian parents have done and -- voila! -- all my kids will be saints. If I've learned one thing in my time as a Christian, it's that faith is about having a relationship with God, and relationships aren't about formulas and checklists. I also believe that, when children fall away from faith, in most cases it's not because their parents did something "wrong," but rather because of some confluence of forces at work in each individual person's psychological makeup and environment.

That said, I do think it would be helpful to those of us who still have young children (and especially to those of us who are also converts) to have a discussion about what the most important things are that parents can do to pave the road for their children to have a deep, lasting relationship with God. Again, there are no magic formulas, and whether each child chooses to follow the road that's been paved for him is up to him and God alone. But what can parents do to set their children up as well as possible in that department?

In my little informal study, I found three factors that almost every single family had in common:

  1. The parents prayed for their children to have faith
  2. The children saw the parents rely on God in real, concrete ways (e.g. if the father didn't get a big promotion at work he'd pray about what God wanted him to do next, express trust that God would bring good out of the situation, etc.)
  3. The parents and children prayed together at least occasionally

The families I talked to were surprisingly diverse in terms of the parents' outward holiness, faithfulness to church attendance, type of schools the kids went to, amount of time spent in group prayer, etc. -- yet all of them had those three factors in common. (And I should note that I'm using the plural "parents" as shorthand: I did talk to some single-parent families and families where only one parent was a believer.)

That data has given me a lot of great food for thought as I set out into this strange new territory of Christian motherhood, but I undoubtedly have a lot left to learn. I'd be interested to hear from you: What do you think are the most important things parents can do to help children stay strong in their faith?

Volunteers from hell

This appeared in the Southern Cross in July 2010 - all credit to the Souther Cross

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

The Message of Fatima in its Sorrowful Fulfilment

The Message of Fatima in its Sorrowful Fulfilment


Behold, as we stand before you, Mother of Christ, before your Immaculate Heart, we desire, together with the whole Church, to unite ourselves with the consecration which, for love of us, your Son made of himself to the Father: 'For their sake', he said, 'I consecrate myself that they also may be consecrated in the truth' (Jn 17:19). We wish to unite ourselves with our Redeemer in this his consecration for the world and for the human race, which, in his divine Heart, has the power to obtain pardon and to secure reparation. (...)

O Immaculate Heart! Help us to conquer the menace of evil, which so easily takes root in the hearts of the people of today, and whose immeasurable effects already weigh down upon our modern world and seem to block the paths towards the future!

From famine and war, deliver us.

From nuclear war, from incalculable self-destruction, from every kind of war, deliver us.

From sins against the life of man from its very beginning, deliver us.

From hatred and from the demeaning of the dignity of the children of God, deliver us.

From every kind of injustice in the life of society, both national and international, deliver us.

From readiness to trample on the commandments of God, deliver us.

From attempts to stifle in human hearts the very truth of God, deliver us.

From the loss of awareness of good and evil, deliver us.

From sins against the Holy Spirit, deliver us, deliver us.

Accept, O Mother of Christ, this cry laden with the sufferings of all individual human beings, laden with the sufferings of whole societies.

Help us with the power of the Holy Spirit to conquer all sin: individual sin and the 'sin of the world,' sin in all its manifestations.

Let there be revealed, once more, in the history of the world the infinite saving power of the Redemption: the power of merciful Love! May it put a stop to evil! May it transform consciences! May your Immaculate Heart reveal for all the light of Hope!"

Excerpt from the Entrustment by John Paul II of Individuals and Nations to Our Lady

Jublilee of Families, October 15, 2000. (Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith)

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Beauty for Worship's Sake

Christopher W. Decker, is \ active in the Catholic Worker Movement, he teaches French at Campbell Hall School in North Hollywood, California.
There is a legend that a thousand years after the birth of Christ, Prince Vladimir of Kiev endeavored to discover which of the great religions was best. Islam forbade the use of alcohol and the Jews lived in exile. Both Latin and Greek Christianity were deemed acceptable, but the Byzantine Church in Constantinople had a liturgy and church buildings so beautiful that the Prince’s emissaries recommended that he and all his subjects become Orthodox Christians. “We knew not whether we were in heaven or on earth,” was their report concerning what they had experienced in Constantinople.

As a college student, I too was deeply moved by the beauty of the liturgy. I was not a Christian, but a student of comparative religion. As part of an assignment for a course on ritual, I attended Mass at the local Catholic parish, which also happened to be the home of the archdiocesan choir school. I heard the Mass sung, and listened to hymns that filled the church and echoed from the walls. I watched Catholics repeat the gestures and words of countless generations. More than a few times I choked on my own tears. It wasn’t long before I became a Catholic. As I walked down the aisle of the church at the Easter Vigil on my way to the death and rebirth of baptism, the litany of the saints was being chanted, and it seemed as if the words and melody formed an archway to shelter and guide me as I approached the sanctuary.
I was not surprised when I learned that Thomas Merton too had been converted, at least in part, by beauty. Nor was I surprised when a Dominican priest with whom I was working told me of his own conversion: He was sitting down to eat his lunch in a large cafeteria of some 300 people when he saw a young man on a far side of the room make the sign of the cross before beginning his meal. “And I knew right then that I had to be a priest.” Even this simple gesture could become transparent with the beauty of worship, in which we see, albeit dimly, the beauty of God Himself.

The Church herself teaches that this beauty, the beauty of the liturgy, is no accident. Nor is it merely sensory. It is metaphysical for, as the Second Vatican Council teaches, “in the earthly liturgy we take part in the foretaste of that heavenly liturgy which is celebrated in the Holy City of Jerusalem” (Lumen Gentium, #8). The eucharistic prayer makes the same point when it announces that “we sing with all the choirs of angels” — the angels who see God face to face.

Monday, July 12, 2010

Ten Facts All Catholics Should Know (but don't)

Every time I hear someone claim to be an “ex-Catholic”, a sense of sadness comes over me. In just about every case, people leave the Catholic Faith due to a lack of understanding. After all, if Catholics truly believed that they were members of the one, true Church founded by Christ (and necessary for their salvation), nobody would ever leave! In an effort to help clarify what the Catholic Church teaches, I have compiled a list of 10 important facts that every Catholic should know. More than simply Catholic trivia, these are important concepts that can help us to better understand and defend our beliefs. In no particular order, these items have been compiled based upon my work at Following The Truth and my own study of the Catholic Faith.


1. Women Will Never Be Priests – Often incorrectly lumped in with the subject of married priests, this is a doctrine that has been infallibly decided and will not change. In 1994, Pope John Paul II issued an Apostolic Letter, Ordinatio Sacerdotalis, in which he declared once and for all that “the Church has no authority whatsoever to confer priestly ordination on women and that this judgment is to be definitively held by all the Church’s faithful.” Unlike the issue of married priests (which could possibly change), women’s ordination is an impossibility that will not happen. It is not a “glass ceiling” or the Church’s attempt to hold back women. Instead, it is an infallible recognition that men and women have different roles and that Christ instituted a male priesthood.

2. Fridays Are Still Days Of Penance – Ask almost anyone and they will tell you that Catholics are no longer required to abstain from meat on Fridays throughout the year. However, the current Code of Canon Law (CIC) states that, with the exception of solemnities, “All Fridays through the year and the time of Lent are penitential days and times throughout the entire Church.” (CIC 1250) Furthermore, “Abstinence from eating meat or another food according to the prescriptions of the conference of bishops is to be observed on Fridays throughout the year unless they are solemnities.” (CIC 1251) In the United States, the bishops have declared that it is permissible to substitute some other form of penance, but we are still urged to fast from “something” in remembrance of the Lord’s death on the cross.

3. The Bible Is A Catholic Book – Did you ever wonder how the Bible came into being? A little known, but easily documented fact is that the books of the Bible were compiled by the Catholic Church. For many years after Christ ascended into Heaven, there was debate about which scriptural writings were inspired by God. The canon of Scripture (the books of the Bible) was first formally decided at the Synod of Rome in 382. This decision was upheld at the Councils of Hippo (393) and Carthage (397). At these Catholic Church councils, the same 46 Old Testament and 27 New Testament books that appear in today’s Catholic Bibles were declared to be inspired by God. As a side note, approximately 1200 years after this decision was made, Martin Luther and the Protestant reformers removed 7 books from the Old Testament. As a result, most Protestant Bibles are still missing these 7 books.

4. The Mass Is The Same Sacrifice As Calvary – The biggest mistake that many Catholics make is treating the Holy Mass as “just another church service”, similar to those held by other religions. In the Mass, Christ’s Sacrifice on the Cross is made present, its memory is celebrated and its saving power is applied. The Council of Trent teaches that Christ left a visible sacrifice to His Church “in which that bloody sacrifice which was once offered on the Cross should be made present, its memory preserved to the end of the world, and its salvation-bringing power applied to the forgiveness of the sins which are daily committed by us.” When we attend Mass, we are mystically transported to Calvary, where we can unite ourselves with the Lord’s Sacrifice to the Father!

5. Annulments Are Not Catholic Divorces – Unlike the legal process known as “divorce” (in which a marriage is terminated), a declaration of nullity (annulment) states that a valid marriage never existed. This decision is based upon the finding that on the day that marriage vows were exchanged, some essential elements were lacking. This process is completely in conformity with the Catholic teaching regarding the indissolubility of marriage. Incidentally, the granting of an annulment does not render children illegitimate.

6. In Vitro Fertilization Is Morally Unacceptable – Many Catholics suffering from infertility utilize this process in the hopes of conceiving children, while remaining unaware that the Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC) declares it “morally unacceptable”(CCC 2377). In the Vatican Instruction, Donum Vitae, the Church states “…in conformity with the traditional doctrine relating to the goods of marriage and the dignity of the person, the Church remains opposed from the moral point of view to homologous ‘in vitro’ fertilization. Such fertilization is in itself illicit and in opposition to the dignity of procreation and of the conjugal union, even when everything is done to avoid the death of the human embryo.”

7. There Is No Salvation Outside Of The Catholic Church – Originally stated by St. Cyprian, the Latin axiom “Extra Ecclesiam nulla salus” reminds us that there is no salvation outside of the Catholic Church. This dogma was declared at the Fourth Lateran Council and is a source of confusion for Catholics and non-Catholics alike. According to the Catechism, all salvation comes from Christ the Head through the Church which is His Body. It does not mean that non-Catholics cannot achieve salvation. Individuals who are unaware that the Catholic Church is the one, true Church may still achieve salvation through the merits of the Church, despite their lack of knowledge.

8. In An Emergency, Anyone Can Baptize – Although the ordinary ministers of Baptism are bishops, priests and deacons, anyone can baptize in an emergency, even a non-baptized person. This extraordinary decision can be attributed to the necessity of Baptism for salvation and the Church’s desire to make it readily available to all.

9. Hell And Purgatory Still Exist – Contrary to the belief of many Catholics, the Church still teaches that “the souls of those who die in a state of mortal sin, descend into hell, where they suffer the punishments of hell, eternal fire” (CCC 1035) Furthermore, “all who die in God’s grace and friendship, but still imperfectly purified, are indeed assured of their eternal salvation, but after death they undergo purification, so to achieve the holiness necessary to enter the joy of heaven.” (CCC 1030) This purification process, formally declared by the Church at the Councils of Florence and Trent, is known as Purgatory.

10. Catholics Don’t Worship Mary And The Saints – Many Catholics are confused about the role of the Blessed Mother and the Saints. Should we pray to Mary and the Saints or should we go “right to the top” and pray to God? In a nutshell, the Catholic Faith teaches that we must worship God alone. Mary and the Saints are to be honored, not worshipped. However, their intercession can be extremely powerful and emulating their virtues can put us on the road to Heaven.

While the above list only scratches the surface of the robust Catholic Faith, it provides a glimpse into the depth of Catholic teaching. Further explanation on these and other topics can be found by examining the Code of Canon Law and the Catechism of the Catholic Church, both of which can be found online at the Vatican website (www.vatican.va). Not only will studying the teachings of the Catholic Church enable us to better defend her when challenged, it will help us to become closer to Our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ, who founded our Church 2,000 years ago.

Gary Zimak is the founder of Following The Truth Ministries, a lay apostolate created to assist Catholics in learning more about their Faith. He is a frequent guest on EWTN's "Son Rise Morning Show" and has appeared on Sirius Radio's "Seize The Day" with Gus Lloyd as well as several local Catholic radio shows. In addition to writing for Catholic Exchange, Mr. Zimak speaks at various parishes, updates The Catholic Truth website and posts frequently on his blog, Facebook and Twitter. He is a member of Catholics United For The Faith, an officer in the Knights of Columbus and resides in New Jersey with his wife Eileen and twin daughters, Mary and Elizabeth. They are actively involved in Sacred Heart Parish in Riverton, NJ.

Vatican is in the Red too...

VATICAN CITY: The Vatican has posted its third straight financial loss, registering a euro4.1 million ($5.2 million) deficit for 2009.
The financial report released Saturday by the Holy See's press office listed revenues of euro250.18 million against expenses of euro254.28 million. Most of the expenses went to support Pope Benedict XVI's activities and Vatican offices, especially Vatican Radio.

In 2008, the Vatican was euro900,000 in the red; a year earlier it posted a euro9.06 million deficit.
The Vatican said annual donations from churches worldwide, the so-called Peter's Pence, were up significantly: In 2009, Catholics donated $82.52 million, up from $75.8 million in 2008 and $79.8 million in 2007. Leading donors were the US, Italy and France.

Friday, July 2, 2010

Do You Despair Over the Current Crisis in the Church?

By John Beaumont in New Oxford Review (June 2010)

John Beaumont is a lawyer by training who works as a legal consultant and freelance writer on Catholic issues. He is the author of Roads to Rome: A Guide to Notable Converts from Britain and Ireland from the Reformation to the Present Day, forthcoming from St. August¬ine’s Press.

Let me start by saying that just one single act of sexual abuse is appalling. This is not just a mantra to be repeated for the sake of form. It is true, and to read of some of the cases of abuse is to know despair on the human level. But there is more that needs to be said, both on the general issue of bad deeds within the Church and on the specific questions raised at this point in time.

It is not surprising that even Catholics have been asking how the Catholic Church, founded by the God-Man and claiming as one of her defining marks that of holiness, can still claim to be the Body of Christ, the representative of our Blessed Lord in the world today, when those ordained to her sacred priesthood stoop to the very depths of iniquity by sexually abusing God’s little ones.

In fact, we can answer this question with some degree of confidence. The first step is surely to recognize that this is, of course, not a new problem. Anyone with a sense of history should know that, even in the highest echelons, such things can go on and have gone on throughout the life of the Church.

Perhaps the best way to respond is to refer to the witness of John Henry Cardinal Newman, the man about to be beatified by the present Pope. Newman was asked by an inquirer why the Catholic Church should be in many respects so unlike what we should expect and wish her to be. This was Newman’s answer:
Doubtless the face of the visible Church is very disappointing to an earnest mind, nay, in a certain sense, a scandal. I assert, rather than grant, this grave and remarkable fact. Another remarkable fact is this, — that it has ever been so. I do not believe there ever was a time when the gravest scandals did not exist in the Church, and act as impediments to the success of its mission…. It is also a fact, that, in spite of them still, the Church has ever got on and made way, to the surprise of the world; as an army may fight a series of bloody battles, and lose men, and yet go forward from victory to victory…. And it is a further fact, that Our Lord distinctly predicted these scandals as inevitable; nay further, He spoke of His Church as in its very constitution made up of good and bad, of wheat and weeds, of the precious and the vile. One out of His twelve Apostles fell, and one of the original seven deacons. Thus, a Church, such as we behold, is bound up with the very idea of Christianity.
What we have to appreciate is the vast risk that Christ was taking by building His Church out of people like us. The treasures of the Church are held in fragile earthen vessels. One of Newman’s biographers, Meriol Trevor, saw this clearly: “Because God created humankind with free will, ‘what is wrong with the Church’ in any age is the result of human fallibility, not a failure of Divine providence, which has always maintained it within the Way, the Truth and the Life. Catholics have always known this and have never seen any bad policies of Popes, corrupt practices of clerics, disciplinary injustices or devotional aberrations as invalidating the apostolic authority of the faith, or as interrupting the communication of Divine life through the sacraments. The Way is always there for all to follow.” If, then, the Church were merely a human institution, she would have collapsed long ago, as one earthly empire after another has collapsed during her 2,000-year history.

On the issue of the present crisis, Pope Benedict XVI has emphasized the crucial importance of prayer on behalf of the victims of abuse. One must also endorse the need for prayers for the Holy Father himself. In addition, in light of the unbalanced attack launched against the Church by such atheist celebrities as Richard Dawkins and Christopher Hitchens, here are ten crucial points that we must bear in mind if we are to inject balance into the present discussions.

1. Christopher Hitchens claims that then-Cardinal Ratzinger told bishops that anyone who disclosed “child rape and torture by priests” would be excommunicated. In fact, Cardinal Ratzinger referred to a duty on the part of bishops to denounce such crimes and to automatically excommunicate those who failed to do so. What Hitchens stated was the complete opposite of the truth.

2. Fr. Lawrence Murphy in Milwaukee was abusing his victims from 1955 to 1974. The Vatican was not told about this until 1996. When the case was reported originally, the police did not believe the victims and absolved the priest. What no one seems to appreciate is that the proceedings brought by the Church against Fr. Murphy were never dropped. On the day he died, he was still a defendant in a Church criminal trial, as has been made clear by Fr. Thomas Brundage, the judge at his trial. Fr. Brundage stated that if he had been asked to abate this trial, he would have appealed to the supreme court of the Church, or to Pope John Paul II if necessary. He added that Cardinal Ratzinger was not involved in the case at all. Needless to say, no newspaper reporter has ever interviewed Fr. Brundage, yet he has been falsely quoted in the press.

3. It is interesting to note that accusations against the Pope in respect to the Murphy case are being made by Rembert Weakland, the former archbishop of Milwaukee. It is important to remember that it was Archbishop Weakland who at the time threatened the parents of victims of abuse, stating that they were guilty of slander. It was Weakland who shredded many copies of reports about predator priests. And it was Weakland who paid out $450,000 of archdiocesan funds to buy off Paul Marcoux, with whom he had had a homosexual relationship. Finally, Archbishop Weakland falsely stated in a letter to the Vatican that he had instructed Fr. Brundage to abate the proceedings against Fr. Murphy.

4. Cardinal Ratzinger only managed abuse cases after 2001. Before then, cases did not have to go to Rome. Only laicization cases in which the priest did not consent to that process went to Rome — and those did not go to the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith (CDF) headed by Cardinal Ratzinger. Only abuse cases involving the Sacrament of Penance went to the CDF.

5. Cardinal Ratzinger stopped the practice (found to be ineffective) of sending priests to therapists, a practice used regularly, of course, by secular bodies. Ratzinger fast-tracked the defrocking of priests and promoted cooperation at the diocesan level between the Church and the police. He waived the statute of limitations and included Internet offenses within the jurisdiction of canon law.

6. In relation to allegations of secrecy, there must always be an element of confidentiality until any trial is complete to protect the good name of the witnesses, to shield the victims from publicity, and to encourage other victims to come forward. Also, in a free society one can hardly start with a presumption of guilt in the case of the defendant, who has rights in law. Remember also the particular difficulty in respect to cases involving the Sacrament of Penance, in which a priest cannot break the seal of confession even to defend himself against an accusation.

7. Nothing in canon law prohibits or impedes reporting to the police. Since 2001 bishops must report to the police or social services all allegations of abuse. Since 2002 there are records of the exact number of allegations made, the action taken, and the outcome. No other organization provides this. There are also now clear and independent procedures nationally and in every parish and diocese for reporting allegations of abuse to civil authorities.

8. In view of the fact that the great majority of priestly abusers are homosexual, it is difficult to see how the abolition of the celibacy rule for priests would assist in any way. What has been much more effective is the definitive disavowal of the sexual-psychological theories of such as the late Carl Rogers, used at one time in many seminaries and religious houses.

9. As far as statistics are concerned, in the past forty years 0.4 percent of the priests of England and Wales have faced allegations of child abuse. Fewer than this have been found guilty. With respect to figures worldwide, the total number of priests and religious is approximately 400,000. In the past ten years the Holy See has received 3,000 complaints about sexual matters, of which 60 percent related to sexual abuse of minors. The media have claimed that thousands of children were abused in Irish Catholic institutions and that it was a “holocaust.” In fact, there were 381 claims of sexual abuse made between 1914 and 1999, according to the Irish government’s official commission, a period of time in which 25,000 people attended the institutions in question. Though the actual figure is not negligible, statistically it hardly qualifies as a “holocaust.” It is instructive to note that the figures for other groups in society are much higher — between 40 and 60 percent of sexual abuse of children is committed by family members, for example, compared with two percent by Catholic priests, which is comparable to figures for Protestant clergy. The rate of abuse among schoolteachers, psychologists, juvenile-prison employees, and athletic coaches is also significantly higher than among Catholic priests. Nevertheless, as stated above, even one incident is one too many.

10. Pope Benedict has repeatedly apologized for the shame of clerical sexual abuse of children, both to a worldwide audience and in the various places he has visited. This is unprecedented. He has met with victims. He recently disciplined an entire bishops’ conference (the Irish). In sum, he has been the most effective Church official ever in reacting to sexual abuse by priests, and has also taken the initiative in putting into effect strong measures to prevent abuse.

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The Church must respond to this scandal with penance, prayer, and fasting generally, and with genuine contrition where faults have been unearthed. This must be done in light of the truth, however, and the evidence is that some of the Church’s assailants have an agenda of their own and are prepared to use dishonest tricks to succeed in their aim. This is a difficult balance for Catholics to hold fast to, but at the human level the future of the faith depends on our succeeding.